{"id":9614,"date":"2019-04-24T17:23:55","date_gmt":"2019-04-24T23:23:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.insearchofsukoon.com\/?p=9614"},"modified":"2019-04-24T19:11:00","modified_gmt":"2019-04-25T01:11:00","slug":"how-to-find-your-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.insearchofsukoon.com\/how-to-find-your-people\/","title":{"rendered":"HOW TO FIND YOUR PEOPLE"},"content":{"rendered":"
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<\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n WHERE ARE MY PEOPLE? It all started, like it mostly does with an article which I read while waiting in the carpool lane. Thanks to my mommy brain (my go-to-excuse for everything), I forgot most of it by the time we reached home but it left me with a certain kind of itch. After days […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9622,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1759],"tags":[3005,3003,3000,3002,3001,1873,3004],"class_list":["post-9614","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-conversations","tag-fellow-friends","tag-friendship","tag-how-to-find-your-people","tag-how-to-find-your-tribe","tag-how-to-make-friends","tag-love","tag-respect"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"yoast_head":"\n2. YOU DO YOU.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
If you really want to find your kind of people….<\/h4>\n
Be your truest self!<\/h4>\n
I know it can be scary, especially around new people and you will have all these feelings screaming at you like<\/h4>\n
Why should I go all in?<\/h4>\n
What if no one likes me?<\/h4>\n
What if they think crazy things about me?<\/h4>\n
Will I be the only one without a friend?<\/h4>\n
These feelings are normal thanks to our default settings. We are supposed to be somewhat fearful of the unknown.<\/h4>\n
But you know what?<\/h4>\n
The only thing which holds true for all of us is that you can only find a true friend by being the truest version of yourself first.<\/h4>\n
If you want to be surrounded by your kind of people, then plain and ordinary needs to go.<\/h4>\n
As crazy and scary as it may sound, try to be yourself at the very first chance you get. If you are scared of being left alone then good for you, as it was never your crowd, to begin with.<\/h4>\n
It is okay to say that you do not know much about the subject at hand.<\/h4>\n
It is okay to politely say that the topic does not interest you.<\/h4>\n
It is okay to drift away from the discussion at hand.<\/h4>\n
You will be pleasantly surprised that there will always be people who talk your talk and walk your walk, but unless you are brave enough to say what you truly want to say, you will never find them and they will never find you.<\/h4>\n
And that gets me to my next point …..<\/h4>\n
3. AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AND THE STATUS IS TOTALLY IRRELEVANT<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n
The world is a global village and thanks to the social media we can now be in touch with people from miles away.<\/h4>\n
Over the past decade, I myself have encountered so many wonderful people from all walks of life. Some of them were there for a season while others are still in for a looong ride.<\/h4>\n
Initially, I would try to friend people my age and my lifestyle but sometimes I just could not relate and instead found myself enjoying the company of people older than me, way younger than me, people totally different than me.<\/h4>\n
I learned that mindset and age are not two sides of the same coin and should not be confused.<\/h4>\n
Similarly what someone does for a living or their status does not define their relationship with you.<\/h4>\n
So if this is what is holding you back, give yourself permission to enjoy the person and their company rather than the demographics which sometimes we all get sucked into.<\/h4>\n
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4. GIVE THEM A SNEAK PEAK<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
This comes way after all the above-mentioned points and once you have a tribe.<\/h4>\n
There is a very famous quote …..<\/h4>\n
“CHANGE” IS THE ONLY THING CONSTANT IN LIFE.<\/h4>\n
Life, as we all know, is a roller coaster ride. There are ups and downs.<\/h4>\n
A lot of the times, we happily share our ups with our friends but when the downs happen, we shut the door, bolt it hard and lock it with the biggest locks we can find.<\/h4>\n
What does it lead to?<\/h4>\n
Confusion, Miscommunication and sometimes lost in trust.<\/h4>\n
Your friends have no idea what is happening in your life since you never shared it with them so for them life goes on as usual whereas you have all these mixed emotions bottling up.<\/h4>\n
You both suddenly cannot relate to each other.<\/h4>\n
If they call\/text to check up on you, you want them to leave you alone at this moment and give you some space but since you never say it out loud, you start feeling suffocating while they think you are being a simple *&*&*&.<\/h4>\n
So once you have found your kind of people, let them in on what’s going on in your life. It does not have to be a full-blown tour, just a peak so that they know that you are okay and give you what you need in that season of your life.<\/h4>\n
If for some reason, even after the tour you both cannot relate to each other, it’s okay. Realize they were your friends for a particular season and they will come back once that season is here again.<\/h4>\n
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In a nutshell….<\/h4>\n
Be brave and have the courage to say what really interests you.\u00a0Not everyone will like what you have to say and the crowd might thin around you but you know, that is perfectly okay as it was never meant to be.<\/h4>\n
On the other hand, there will always be someone who will relate to you. They are just waiting for you to be you.<\/h4>\n
If you have acquaintances but have not yet found your people, it’s because you are going with the flow and blending in.<\/h4>\n
Stop being vanilla and be the flavor you have always craved for.<\/h4>\n
You are unique, give your own self a chance to shine.<\/h4>\n
You know where will that you lead to?<\/h4>\n
“YOUR KIND OF PEOPLE”<\/h4>\n
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